I have set a task for myself, to schedule ALL these things into my diary weekly. To set reminders on my phone, to stick to the to-do lists and make sure things dont fall by the wayside.
Now the scary part................ my daily to-do list looks crazy long!! Like count to 10, dont panic you can do this, epic!
And you know what I have found? I have way more time for the important stuff than I thought!
Before 9 am Monday to Friday I have taught a class, ate breakfast, done my daily quota of Swedish (totally serious about learning this language!), spoke to my kids, answered my emails and Facebook messages, scheduled posts and have 2 cups of lovely herbal tea! Pukka Licorice and cinnamon is my current favorite!
I then have time to take a 30 minute walk in the fresh air and clear my head before my next classes. WOW who would have thought???
Now I also know that not everyday will be the same. But I am learning that by making a point to schedule my personal wants and needs, they actually get a look in. This to me is huge!
I know that I am a better person when I feel well, feel rested and feel like my needs are being met. I would normally be inclined to let me take a back-seat to well, pretty much everything, as I am sure that most of us, Mum's in particular will understand. And in my business I have a new baby, one who is very demanding and needs alot of love and attention, even more than my 4 actual babies!!! But I am sure that not only will I be a better person by looking after me and my family, but that I will also be a better business person.
So I have to plan ahead, and the daily tasks go on and on, and on..... but it is so satisfying ticking each one off, and knowing that I feel better for doing it.
I can live each day with a plan, a purpose, real intention to make things better for my clients, my family and me x
Happy monday, I hope it is amazing!!
So another year has flown past and we are currently listening to the barrage of "New Year...New You!" messages from all sides.
Even himself asked my 7 year old at the table this morning what her "new year's resoloution" was???
She answered with "I don't know, I'm 7" #proudmammymoment
The pressure we put on ourselves this time each year is immense.........
Must start the New Year right!
Must loose weight, get fit, eat right, get rich, get that promotion, take over the world........etc!
In reality we know these resoloutions mostly don't last past the 6th because we tend to try to eat the whole elephant!
Lets be kind to ourselves this year, and do this fresh start in a healthy way so that we have a real chance at sucess!
What if instead of a hundred huge life changing resolutions, you simply made 1 simple promise to yourself? Something small but instrumental that would make a real difference.
Maybe the "elephant" is a stone or 2 you really want to loose. One simple promise to move everyday can kickstart that! Or maybe you eat way too much sugar. Taking a spoon out of each tea or coffee daily could make all the difference.
And what if instead of trying to take over the whole world you just decided to take control of you? To look after how you feel, get proper rest and be as good to yourself are you are your best friend.
The fact of the matter is that every day is a new chance to start over! It doesnt have to be a Monday or a new month or even a new year. You decide when and how and why to change! And instead of trying to tackle the whole list at once, set smaller goals. Actually succeeding will make it so much easier to continue!
For me I have a few promises (not resolutions!) made for the year ahead. Some of them are long term, slow burn type projects which I have to be patient and measured about...... hence my first promise is to be patient with myself!
I also need to sleep more, and I want to start learing Swedish. I know that I won't have all these things sorted tomorrow, or maybe even done by this time next year but if I can take a bite or two out of the "elephant" than it will have been a successful year!
Happy New Year and may 2017 be happy, healthy xxx
No i havent exactly switched to a blogger who details proper household management or economic strategies......... but this is an important lesson in life, fitness and business.
Buying cheap toilet paper is a false economy! It might save you a little in the moment, but you loose out in the long run (and run out far more often!). Its like buying your second favorite pair of shoes because they were €10 cheaper than what you really wanted....oh the regret! Or ordering the tapas size portion because you "arent that hungry" and then eating all your friends fries!
Or deciding not to spend a little time and money on YOUR HEALTH AND FITNESS!
In the moment you save time/cash/energy, however in the long run you are just putting off the inevitable, and cheating yourself out of a really good dinner or days/weeks/months of time that could have already brought you closer to your goals.
If like me, the answer to the question "Do you want it done right or done now?" is always BOTH, then make the leap. Book the class, throw the gym gear in the car and do it! Spend the extra €10 on the really amazing (and probably really impractical) shoes, buy the fluffy stuff!! Dont leave the change that needs to happen for another minute.................... you are the only one who can decide, and you need to decide that you are 100% worth it xxx
I hear it all the time......in fact I say it a lot too!
"I will start that next week/on Monday/ from next month!"
Well I used to. This year something changed for me when I decided to stop putting things off. Especially the things I really wanted, the ones that mattered to me most.
I sometimes want to scream at friends when they tell me all about the life changing plans they have for "next week/month/year".......WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR!!!!
Even worse is when I hear "It is too late for me to start_______" NO!!!
It is never too late, too early or even the right time to make a change. Now is the perfect time, always.
I am sure a lot of you have seen the video of the amazing 104 year old does yoga, and only started 30 years ago when she would have been 74! She is one of my hero's xx
Imagine how many people would have thought she was TOO OLD to start? Her own children probably shook their heads and her friends must have thought she was nuts!!
She herself probably thought it would be too much. But she did it and it changed her life!
I know that change is hard, and scary, and sometimes we are so afraid that putting it off seems like the only realistic option. I have been so afraid to make changes at times that being unhappy seemed like a better choice. Really and truly being stuck was easier than changing and failing. This is my big fear....Failure.
Which of us hasn't made a monumental mess of something at sometime!
And does waiting make it any less scary? No.
Does putting it off mean you are any more likely to succeed? I doubt it.
Does starting Monday make it easier to stick to? Not at all.
You could make one simple change today, that could change your life completely by tomorrow!!
Whether you have 2 stone to loose, want to get fit, tone up or improve your diet you have as good a chance of succeeding by starting today as you have by waiting.
If you are sitting at home thinking it is too close to Christmas to reach "that" goal, you are not being 100% honest with yourself.
You might not loose all 2 stone (in fact I would be worried if you did!) but wouldn't it feel better to be a little closer than you are right now?
There might not be enough time to get into that dress for the Christmas party, but you wont know if you don't try! And by trying you have achieved more than you will if you wait.
You just have to take hold of the opportunity when it presents itself, give your best and believe great things will happen!
Apply the same thinking to life ladies and gents...........
Don't wait, just do.
The timing will never be perfect, but now is always the best time to start!!
This is not me being ironic.......I adore food, pretty much all food, and wine, and whiskey (don't judge me!) and I am useless without a constant supply of snacks!
There is nothing wrong with loving food, in fact I am pretty sure that it is one of the true joys of life. But that is a very different thing to looking for comfort, control and validation FROM food.
It scares me how many of us have/had a truly terrible relationship with food, that consists of guilt, shame, and punishment. Please cant we all just get along!!
Please do not think that I am preaching here as I had a rotten food relationship for many, many years. For me, my food was the one thing that I always could control. I was obsessive!
I wasn't eating to fuel my body, I was eating to assert my will. Some days that meant running on only 1 meal, and 12 cups of coffee, and others it was proving that I could eat the WHOLE CHEESECAKE just because. I didn't feel well, I had no energy, my skin was terrible, my digestion was a mess.....literally..... and I couldn't cope with the stresses and strains that life was throwing at me.
Instead of adopting a healthier approach, I just tightened the reigns. More external stressors just meant I needed to assert more control. This approach got me no where!
I decided to make a change only when my body started to refuse to let me do the things I loved. I was getting colds constantly, I was getting injured through exercise and not healing. Basically I was failing.
I tried with some degree of success to follow different guidelines for getting enough food, the right nutrients, the right "Macro balance" BLAH,BLAH,BLAH......it was all just more excuses to control!
The penny only dropped when I looked at the "WHY"
The reasons behind my dysfunctional food issues were what had to be dealt with first. Untangling a lifetime of pretty poor eating habits was and still is a tough thing. It is like loosing a life long friend! You grieve. You feel lost, and angry and so confused. I mean who really likes change?
But it was the best thing I have ever changed! I can look a my food as a necessary fuel source in order to get the right stuff, and find enjoyment in flavours, and textures. I don't feel guilt over my indulgences, I relish in them and savour them. I can drink in the smell, and enjoy the way food looks and how it makes me feel.
So many of us count points, sins, calories. So many of us consider certain foods bad, naughty, or even banned! Why are we wasting time and beautiful food?
Eating a treat wont make you a bad person.
One chocolate bar will not make you a stone heavier.
And I am pretty sure that eating Kale and Quinoa all day every day will not make you a happy healthy person.
Balance ladies. Love yourself enough to love your food xx
So for those of you who know me or follow the blog or page, you know that I have been flat out for the last 5 weeks getting my new business ready to open.
It has been a labour (intensive!) of love and a learning curve in all matters! And I am not sure how or what I expected to feel after opening the doors.................
I suppose I hoped to stand back and feel proud of what I accomplished, and in moments I do.
I think I wanted to feel relieved that the "hard graft" was done.....but now the hard work really starts so, uh no.
I maybe even wanted to feel a rush of excitement and energy, but honestly I am just tired.
All that said, the joy of being back teaching is amazing!! It is the reason why I wanted to jump with both feet into this project. I LOVE TEACHING CLASSES! I LOVE SEEING PEOPLE FEEL BETTER! It is 100% why I do what I do. I had 3 super classes on my very first day and loved every minute of them, yes folks even the very early 6.45am!!!
We had a good reception on Saturday too. I had some amazing support from a super team of local (and not so local) ladies who are all getting involved in helping me make the Studio a one stop shop for all things health and wellness.
So after a long over due rest day, straight back into the planning and promoting, rehearsing and reworking, the phone calls, emails and messages!
The biggest problem I can see with running my own business is that there will be no let up for a while. There is a need for me to continue to graft and push so that I make this a success.
So definitely, no calm after the storm!!! Just a gentle gale blowing me forward....but this time it for me, and I believe that something wonderful is about to happen xx
Most mothers have a very useful skill in common.....
We are excellent multi-taskers!! This may not have been a talent that you were born with but out of necessity it develops within weeks/months we can suddenly eat breakfast while talking on the phone, while dressing a wriggling child, and manage to get three items checked off the endless TO-DO list all before 8.15am.
You imagine therefore that managing multiple work related tasks, while simultaneously completing the usual mum jobs and household tasks would be completely doable.
This week was a blur of phone calls, emails, meetings and project management all in preparation for the Studio opening in a few weeks (2 exactly, from yesterday, YEAH) and I was relieved that the kids would be back to school thus "freeing up" my time. I was clearly delusional.
I had conveniently forgotten that back to school meant 2 drop offs, 3 collections, homework, lunches, over tired, cranky and downright sullen children and the uniform issues. Really when you wear the same uniform to school 5 days a week how can it possibly take you 25 minutes to get dressed!
It was one of those weeks I wished I had a personal assistant. I actually answered my phone twice and told the caller on the other end that "Jessica" was busy and would get back to them shortly......my son literally thinks I have lost the plot as he heard me do this! I had to do the thing that I hate the most.....ASK FOR HELP.
And it wasn't as bad as I thought. The world didn't stop, a few extra things got finished and when you ask the right people they are actually happy to help.
This is a big deal to me but a lesson I am pretty sure that I can carry to other aspects of my life.
I am a "All or nothing" kind of girl and somewhere along the line I decided that that meant I had to do it all or nothing would get done. NOT TRUE.
And the beauty of asking for help is that you can do more of what matters. For me that was some quality time fighting with my offspring, a good hard workout (still a go hard or go home girl in the gym and on the town!) and lunch with a few friends. Plus the Studio is well on course for opening and the more it comes together the more exciting it gets!
It felt good. So good that I actually am going to take a night off and indulge in my other passion... food and wine!
So I might not be able to "Get my guy on that!" for now, but I might just throw out a little call for help when I really need it, and to the amazing friends in my life who never let me down, just know that, by helping with the small stuff making a huge difference and you are actually making me a better person xx
* I love exercise equally as much as food and wine, I call it balance!*
So we have begun to get the studio ready for opening and I am covered from head to toe in dirt, dust and paint! I don't mind hard work but I am not a fan of being covered in muck.....
This is very exciting all the same, and I am dying to get up and running.
I have announced the Timetable, and opening offers so this is getting REAL!!!
Here is a little sneak peek!!
The hardest part so far for me has been the waiting......
Waiting for people to get back to me, waiting for people to have time to meet, waiting for deliveries.....you get the idea!
I am not the most patient person at the best of times, so my head is fried.
There is a lot to be organised when opening a business, and I am finding that a lot of people have an opinion on how you should be doing things.
I try to appreciate that this advice comes from a good place. It is a very similar to having a baby, just as scary, just as time consuming, and just as overwhelming. And everyone has to do it the right way for them. I will no doubt make dozens of mistakes, and I defiantly wont be doing it the way that the next person would but I will make the decisions the way I feel is right and I will stand by them.
I will leave you with the beautifully presented timetable and opening offers( by the ever talented @saibhegan, thanks!) for now, and head back to the paint and dirty work!
I promise to show you more pics real soon xx
You can get in touch or sign up on the website today!! www.fittstepstraining.com
So the announcement went out last Monday, and I got to share my amazing news with the world! I am opening my own Fitness Studio!
Holy crap, I AM OPENING MY OWN FITNESS STUDIO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I decided to take the leap, be brave and put my dreams into action, all of which is amazing. I have had a fantastic response, so much better than I had hoped, and I am so overwhelmed I can not explain it.
I did not sleep last Sunday night, not at all. The anticipation of what was to come was just too much. I did not sleep much for the whole week if I am honest! I have spent the week swinging wildly between over excited, giddy and over the moon and trembling in a corner, a giant puddle of stressed out self doubt.
This actually makes me ENTIRELY NORMAL! I really can not say that very often!
Who out their hasn't undertaken a big exciting project without the nerves, emotion and stress? Whether that big project is a job interview, new relationship, having a baby or choosing a new hairstyle ( as superficial as that one sounds, seriously ladies you know!) we all start out on the path with mixed emotions. It is the best kind of stress!
We all suffer stress daily, but how we deal with it will determine our success.
I decided to break the whole enormous project down into pieces, tiny baby steps, and so far it is working beautifully. I set a goal to get 3 things done every single day. Some days when I am on a roll I get through 10 and on my bad days I drag my sorry butt through 3 tasks, and return to my corner.
But the thing that is really keeping my sane is my fitness routine.
Now please do not take that to mean that I am religiously working out 6 days a week, eating clean and being an angel. NOPE.
Reality is pain in the ass even for the most dedicated fitness guru!
I have 4 children, who are all off school. I am opening my own business and have all the physical, legal and financial aspects of that to deal with myself. I have a very patient, almost saint like partner, who would still like my attention once in a while and I still have to make ends meet while doing all of this. I also have the wild notion that the occasional social outing is actually good for my sanity!
But when I am feel the stress rising, I get moving. Even if it is a 20 minute core workout on the bedroom floor, or 5 minutes on the skipping rope. I made a deal with myself to lift at least once a week and so far so good. I hit the gym for a good solid leg session and for the time I am there nothing else matters.
I know that for me fitness isn't just about looking a certain way, it is actually a necessary part of my day for my physical and mental health. It adds value to my life, and a few super side affects too!
So whatever stress you have in your life right now, the best kind or the worst kind, make sure you use fitness as a treatment, never let it be the cause. If your workouts don't make you feel better then you are doing the wrong workouts!
You might be sore, and sweaty and tired after, but you should finish with a smile on your face, and a sense of accomplishment.
And with that done, you should be ready to tackle a few more small things........
Tell me you do to get you through xx
I have very, very few occasions to get all dolled up these days! In fact if you see me in anything other than leggings and a cami, something rather exciting must be happening.
The Ladies Day Event at Halo was very exciting!! I was lucky enough to attend as a VIP with the ITWBN crew, a wonderfully talented and stylish bunch. The venue was superb, as always, and the VIP seating area beautifully laid out for us. A super selection of drinks on offer, ice cold Prosecco and great tunes to set the mood, what more could you ask for!!
As it was Ladies Day, the style was amazing all around. Galway never disappoints during Race Week and this year was no different. The judging, on the night, was done by the always flawless Roz Purcell (honestly her skin in person is to die for!) and the gorgeous Laura Fox,who made great choices.
Not at all influenced by the fact that she choose ITWBN's own Ruth Kemple as a finalist! Ruth's outfit was a fab choice, stand out colour and fabric, with a stunning headpiece from Suzy Mahony Designs. I know where to go for my next headpiece!
ITWBN lovelies, Ruth, Shona and Cloda looking stunning on the night!
For me this was a chance to roll out one of my most treasured possessions, a 1950's vintage lace dress that has only made it's way back to me from the states after almost 20 years!
I adore this dress, and feel every inch the "lady" in it. I topped it off with a simple black headpiece, a super find from Guna Geal in Athenry, and black lace gloves. Hair and makeup took me an age, which for me is unheard of as I almost always do my makeup with my fingers in my car ( sorry to all you beauty pros, I know it's sinful) I have to say I thoroughly enjoyed getting done up and being treated like a VIP for the evening!
My favourite part of any event is the people you meet and have the pleasure of getting to know. Especially when so much of our interaction is online, putting actual faces to names is a real treat. I had some great chats throughout the evening, and look forward to being able to meet up with them all again soon.
In the meantime, for me it is back to leggings and camis, looking after the VIP's in my life and a huge amount of work for my new venture!!!
Jessica Keniston is a mother of 4, former dancer and lover of fitness who has turned her passion into a career. Read favourite tips, recipes and workout advice here, and sympathise with the daily motherhood struggles!