There is nothing wrong with loving food, in fact I am pretty sure that it is one of the true joys of life. But that is a very different thing to looking for comfort, control and validation FROM food.
It scares me how many of us have/had a truly terrible relationship with food, that consists of guilt, shame, and punishment. Please cant we all just get along!!
Please do not think that I am preaching here as I had a rotten food relationship for many, many years. For me, my food was the one thing that I always could control. I was obsessive!
I wasn't eating to fuel my body, I was eating to assert my will. Some days that meant running on only 1 meal, and 12 cups of coffee, and others it was proving that I could eat the WHOLE CHEESECAKE just because. I didn't feel well, I had no energy, my skin was terrible, my digestion was a mess.....literally..... and I couldn't cope with the stresses and strains that life was throwing at me.
Instead of adopting a healthier approach, I just tightened the reigns. More external stressors just meant I needed to assert more control. This approach got me no where!
I decided to make a change only when my body started to refuse to let me do the things I loved. I was getting colds constantly, I was getting injured through exercise and not healing. Basically I was failing.
The penny only dropped when I looked at the "WHY"
The reasons behind my dysfunctional food issues were what had to be dealt with first. Untangling a lifetime of pretty poor eating habits was and still is a tough thing. It is like loosing a life long friend! You grieve. You feel lost, and angry and so confused. I mean who really likes change?
But it was the best thing I have ever changed! I can look a my food as a necessary fuel source in order to get the right stuff, and find enjoyment in flavours, and textures. I don't feel guilt over my indulgences, I relish in them and savour them. I can drink in the smell, and enjoy the way food looks and how it makes me feel.
Eating a treat wont make you a bad person.
One chocolate bar will not make you a stone heavier.
And I am pretty sure that eating Kale and Quinoa all day every day will not make you a happy healthy person.
Balance ladies. Love yourself enough to love your food xx